Marking Collaborative Family Law Week 2018, Berwins’ top rated family law team is exploring what journeying through the separation process can mean for separating couples.
We’ve reached the end of our journey through the collaborative process.
So it turns out, when you sold the family home, there was enough for you both to get somewhere new creatively using your savings and mortgage capacity. Sure, its not as big but the kids are happy with both parents and that’s what’s most important, right? And those pensions that seemed impossible – all sorted.
At the last collaborative meeting, the lawyers are likely to write up heads of agreement. A short summary of what you have agreed to, so everyone knows and can walk away sure that it is finished. Deal done.
That will then get converted to a Consent Order. This is a fuller version of that agreement, in the format required by the court. And, if your divorce is far as Decree Nisi, you can ask the court to approve it and seal it to confirm. Practical arrangements follow. Houses sold or transferred. Pensions shared. Kids getting used to two (happier) parents in two separate homes.
And finally one evening you get to open that bottle of wine/gin/beer (all??) and you look ahead. And maybe you shed a tear – it is the end of a chapter. And maybe you are fearful all over again. And maybe you remind yourself of your Anchor Statement and just how far you have come.
And off you head into the great unknown.
Divorce isn’t great and we don’t dumb it down or glamorise it. But we do make it dignified and collaborative law is the best way of getting through it.
Good luck out there. Believe.
Sarah Smith is a leading family lawyer and mediator. She is the only solicitor ranked as an “Eminent Practitioner” in industry guide Chambers and Partners and has been supporting separating couples for over 20 years.