When a relationship comes to an end there are a range of decisions facing a separating couple. It can be hard to know where to start. Often that starting point can be by deciding where you want to get to – how you want your life and that of your family to look in the future.
“Divorce is like an amputation; you survive it but there is less of you”. These are the insightful words of literary legend Margaret Atwood. So, a divorce has to be a brutally painful process where lasting damage is sustained, right? Well, no because there is a better way to deal with it.
The route to a dignified divorce
Behaviours are often driven by inaccurate expectations and assumptions about what will happen. It does not have to be a mudslinging, money burning travesty. It is time to recalibrate and take a completely new, and frankly common-sense approach by adopting the Collaborative Family Law (‘CFL’) process.
At its heart, the CFL process throws off the legal strait jacket and empowers the separating couple, by enabling them to make joint decisions about the shape of their future as a separated family, always with the best interests of any dependent children front and centre – just as it should be.
No solicitors’ letters, no court, just a series of private ‘round the table’ meetings with each person represented by a specially trained Collaborative Family Lawyer, and a shared obligation (lawyers included) to approach matters with honesty, respect, dignity and listening.
Focusing on the future
This approach facilitates swift, creative, meaningful and family focussed solutions in which children come first and the couple fully participate in achieving a settlement, and avoid the all too frequent outcome of a settlement being imposed by lawyers and the judiciary (at huge expense) which fails to meet the family’s personal priorities and aspirations.
Importantly, experience demonstrates that it also provides the couple with the best prospect of parting on the best possible terms, being particularly important when children are involved. It is by no means an easy option but can, and does, save enormous emotional and financial cost.
Berwins Solicitors specialist family law team has lawyers with a track record of successful outcomes adopting the CFL process. Why make it harder than it needs to be?
William Kaye is a family law specialist with over 20 years' experience supporting separating couples.
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