For many of us, September can feel like the start of a New Year – a time of opportunities and new beginnings, but also a time to take stock and make plans.
As the summer holidays come to an end, family life gets back into a routine with many parents preparing their children for the new school year ahead of them. But it can also lead some parents to make life changing decisions to affecting the dynamics and future of their families.
The triggers can be many and varied, though family holidays – not always as blissful as they seem – can be a defining point, especially when a relationship is already precarious. It is often that one time of year where you spend one or two weeks entirely in each other’s company, without the distractions work, friends and the pattern of day to day life can bring. That uninterrupted time can often concentrate the mind and leave time to reflect on the future. In short, the holiday can result in a make or break trip.
As a family lawyer, I understand that – especially when children are involved – these difficult decisions need to be carefully considered and planned. Understanding your options is essential and will help you to make the best possible decisions for you and your family as it takes on a new shape.
Seeking expert advice
If you have found yourself in that unfortunate position and you don’t know where to turn to next, I would strongly urge you to seek some legal advice. It doesn’t necessarily mean a legal battle is about to commence, but it is about being better informed and prepared for what will happen. I often find that people feel more reassured and clearer as to the future when they come for that initial guidance.
There are many ways to finalise a relationship breakdown and if you seek advice from any sensible family lawyer, you will be urged to keep matters as amicable as possible for the sake of your children. You will hear many horror stories of lengthy court battles and high legal fees. It doesn’t have to be that way and we would strongly urge you to avoid court at all costs and consider alternative routes such as collaborative law and mediation.
The family team at Berwins are all collaboratively trained and will discuss all of your options with you at an initial meeting.
Danielle Day is ranked in leading industry guides and is head of Berwins’ specialist family law team.
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