At this time of year, we seem to be surrounded by the impetus for change. Change our seasonal eating habits to healthy ones. Stop drinking. Start exercising. Stop spending. Start saving. The list goes on and on...
Lifestyle change is daunting. But what if the changes are very much closer to home? For many, the New Year can, unfortunately, bring the resolution to bring their marriage or relationship to an end. That's a big step and, understandably, makes people anxious. The list of worries often starts with the impact on the children, but also 'how long is this going to take?', 'how stressful is this going to be?' and 'how much is it going to cost?' Everyone has heard a story of someone's "nightmare divorce" and it's true that some people go headlong into a battle which they are determined to fight out until the bitter end.
What you need to know is that it doesn't need to be like that. At Berwins 85% of our cases settle out of court. That's right, you don't need to go to court. Sound better? Okay, so if you are thinking about that sort of change here is my advice for the best way to get through it:
1. Take time out
Go for a long walk or get a note pad and pull your thoughts together. There will be things that pull you one way or the other, be clear about what's not okay about where you are now and what a brighter future looks like.
2. Take early advice
We offer a free initial consultation so that you can ask the questions on your mind and get some information on the process, the timescales, the law and the costs. It's a good opportunity to meet your lawyer and make sure that they are someone you can work with to get you to where you want to be.
3. Take courage
The thing about change is that it rarely happens without effort (we're back to the gym again!). It may well be after taking steps one and two that there are things you can do to work on and improve your relationship and family situation and that's great.
Change isn’t easy. Divorce and separation is never easy. But Berwins make it as easy as possible.
Get in touch
Sarah Smith is Managing Director at Berwins and the only ‘Eminent Practitioner’ in Family Law in Yorkshire. To discuss your situation, get in touch with Sarah and Berwins' expert Family Law team by calling 01423 543 108 or use our contact form online.